Last weekend, I had a dinner with several close female friends. They are Chinese-born beautiful ladies. During the dinner, we talked about dating Chinese girls and what women in China like and dislike when they are asked out by men. My friends shared their own experience and the typical stories of their friends. Now I have made a summary and work out several DON’T that men should avoid when dating Chinese women. Hope it helpful to you guys.
Single Chinese Women Don’t Like Talkative Men
According to vast dating tips from the network, you are suggested to be positive and active, lead the conversation with interesting topics in order to avoid embarrassing silence. And that is not wrong, but make sure you are not overactive or talking too much. Remember it is communication, not a speech. You need to exchange ideas with her and get more understanding of each other. Besides, women themselves love speaking. They would rather find a boyfriend who is willing to hear her gossips. In China, many good looking girls tend to find this kind of men, who are plain, of medium height and maybe get a not high wage. Why? The majority of these men have nice personalities and they are a very good listener. So if you want to wake up her interest on you, then listen more to her and tell her your opinion and suggestion properly. Kids draw attention by endless speaking and jumping, but men by appropriate silence.
No! No! No!
Do you give a lot of NO or negative answers to a woman’s question? I suggest you should never do that any more. No one likes to find a boyfriend standing on the opposite site and expressing no approval all the time. And also Chinese ladies want to be pleased and favored. If you keep giving negative reactions to her, she may not show any resentful feeling during the date, but you will never see her again after that. However, it does not mean that you should Yes to all her ideas. It is alright to give a different opinion but in a gentle way instead of a forcing way. Do not begin your sentence with “I don’t think…”, “No, I…” or “But…”. Try these “Yes, you are right. And I …” ” You really have a special viewpoint on this. Most people just believe that…”. Be nice and gentle and ladies will be attracted by you.
Miserly, Excessively Frugal With Money.
I think it is a basic manner to buy woman a meal. A date is not just about talking and exchanging ideas. She will grade you by your behaviours. What you order for a meal and your attitude to spend money always have an important effect on her decision to go out again with you. China lady pays so much attention to this not because she worship rich men. In her eyes, if the guy is excessively frugal with money, he must be a mean selfish man. So order some drinks and food at reasonable price and pay the bill forwardly for a successful Chinese date.
Of course, there are still some common dating rules suitable for dating Chinese girls. For example never be late for the appointment. Bring flowers or small gifts to her. In short , I really hope you can benefit from my tips and wish you a successful date with your Chinese girl.