I joined Chnlove Club two years ago, as I have always been attracted to oriental beauties. Like many other people, I was overwhelmed with a large number of admirers at the beginning, and have been trying to use a lot of discernment to find the right girl for me. Speaking from experience, I have some suggestions that I would like to share with guys like me.
Chnlove Club dating tips: Be honest with the ladies
Firstly, I would advise you to just be honest, but in a kind way. If you are talking about building a real future with one of these ladies, then it is not fair to let the other ladies feelings towards you grow! I get a real feeling that some of these ladies have had a hard enough time with the men in China and don’t want to have their hearts broken by foreign men. My advice is keep your options open but let the girls know what’s going on. They are probably in a similar situation themselves. You may even consider hiding your profile to stop receiving further admiration letters from ladies.
Chnlove Club dating tips: Ask them difficult questions
You need to think about who seems the most genuine, not only who is the most attractive, as what the lady will want is a life-long commitment. Looks fade, but a genuine soul of a person is with you for life. Ask them questions like: Where do you see yourself in 5 years and in what county? Are you really open minded towards starting a new life away from your friends and family? These are hard questions, but you will find out who is genuine and which of these ladies have not thought things through properly!
A common misconception about Chinese women
As western men, the qualities that we are most attracted to in oriental women is their natural femininity and apparent submissiveness. This is very deceptive. In reality Chinese women rule the household, control the purse strings and thereby control the relationship. This is the glue that has kept Chinese families together for thousands of years. The fact that you feel badly about yourself shows that you are drunk with false sense of power from getting so much attention and the belief that you are the one actually in control in the relationship. The sense of attachment that you believe they have towards you is in reality your sense of attachment to them. So you really need to ask some tough questions to see if they are truely interested in getting to know you or are only interested in a one way ticket out or a sugar daddy. Otherwise, it will be you who will be heartbroken!