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  1. My story is a little diefrefnt. I was born and raised in Germany & spoke German exlusively until I turned 10 years of age, although I had an American serviceman father.We then moved to the U.S., where I pretty much had to learn English as I went along. Being that young, I learned pretty easily & quickly and was able to help my German mother who was having a harder time learning.We eventually moved to a small town in the South and my mother forbade me to speak German as she wanted to learn English faster, etc. As a result, I gradually lost my ability to speak German, though recalling major words and phrases occasionally.From the time I was 10 to the time I graduated from high school and went out into the world, I knew of no other Germans to communicate with and that’s why I lost the ability to speak it or to understand others when they spoke it.I’ve felt a severe loss of my identity because of this. When I eventually did run into other German speaking people (tourists, at work, etc.) I was not able to fluently communicate and I was given similar attitudes like yours, but some were even pretty nasty about it, claiming I was making up being German, etc. Very hurtful, to say the least.This brings me to my final thoughts: people claim you can re-learn your native tongue easily NOT TRUE. Though you may recall quite a few words or phrases, putting them all together to communicate smoothly is pretty bad and you still sound like an American speaking bad German & you are starting from scratch.I’m not giving up though, and continue to listen to German music to relearn more phrases, etc. & also watch lots of German films (with the subtitles, obviously, to help make the learning eaier). I basically made my mind up about 2 years ago to go full steam ahead on this, so that I can at least say I do speak some German fluently.I’m being patient and feel that in about 2 to 3 more years I will know enough to do rudimentary interactions & may also get motivated to take classes to get better. Having always been shy hinders me also, or else I would be taking classes to better myself. As it is, I do have some programs (not Rosetta Stone)that also help me. I sometimes wonder ifhypnosis could be of help in recalling the old language, but I’m basically against hypnosis for a variety of reasons.Basically, the loss of identity remains with me and to most people I am a Southerner due to the thick Southern accent I picked up when learning English & that is the part I hate the most because I don’t identify with the South in any shape or form, whatsoever (I have no fond memories of the South and left as soon as I could!).So, as it is .I’m a German who can’t interact easily with other Germans, though in my heart I am as German as they come. They say your identity is pretty much established before the age of 12 & I get defensive when people speak badly of Germans.I saw a documentary about the late Anthony Quinn the other day & he stated that even at age 80 he was not totally comfortable with the English language because it was never his native tongue (he grew up in a Mexican household in Los Angeles) .I understood immediately. The blessing for Anthony was that he was able to retain his native tongue and therefore he chose to use it whenever he was not in a situation where he had to speak English only.Sadly, I don’t have that option & German will never come back as my native tongue. It will always be a challenge for me to to speak German again .and that’s a very sad thought for me.

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