In China, marriage is considered to be one of the three most important things in one’s whole life. To marry beautiful Chinese women, you need to go through several different steps traditionally. Along with the society’s progress and the transformation of people’s thinking, current Chinese marriage customs are not as complicated as the traditional ones. But no matter how it was changed, the atmosphere created during the wedding is invariant – being ceremonious, enthusiastic, jubilant and auspicious. Here I’d like to list some customs which are still maintained in China today, hope it would be helpful for you to make your sweet plans with your Chinese fiancee.
ChnLove Review on Chinese Marriage Customs
1. Betrothal gift presenting to your Chinese girlfriend’s family
Before getting married, people have to pay a formal visit to each other’s parents. When visiting the girl’s parents, the boy has to bring with him the betrothal gifts and money in order to show sincerity. In nowadays, betrothal gifts are usually golden or diamond jewelry. And the betrothal money differs from several thousands RMB to even hundreds of thousands depending on the boy’s financial condition. When the gifts and money are received, then both the girl and the boy are engaged. This was the grandest etiquette of the whole process of engagement. Prolific gifts are presented to the girl’s family, symbolizing respect and kindness towards the girl’s family as well as the capability of providing a good life for the girl.
2. Selecting the Wedding Date
When a new couple is engaged, what followed is a choice of the date of their marriage. Most people would favor a bank holiday or special Chinese festival for their relatives and friends to attend the wedding. However, quite a few others, especially those in the countryside, would probably ask a fortune-teller for a lucky date (usually an even number) so that their marriage would have “Double Happiness”.
3. Wedding ceremony with your Chinese bride to be
A formal Chinese wedding requires the bridegroom to pick up the bride at the bride’s home after respectfully greeted the parents-in-law to be. Then the bridegroom will take his bride to the banquet location (the groom’s home or a restaurant) and wedding ceremony begins. Usually all relatives and friends will be invited and they will wish the new couple with all the best. One of the climaxes of the wedding is the tea ceremony, during which the bride and groom serve tea to their elders in a demonstration of piety. The acceptance of tea also shows acceptance of the son-in-law or daughter-in-law into the family, and seals the union in the eyes of all present. And the couple will probably move from table to table toasting the guests.
These customs have been continued in China for many years. However in the modern days, many young people try to skip most of these rituals or ceremonies. Some of them even just spend 9RMB to do the marriage registration without a wedding. They do this either because they think that new generations should not be confined by these old traditions, or some do so just because of economical reasons of trying not to spend as much money as possible. Actually not matter how luxury or simple the wedding performs, happiness of the two parties involved is the most important. Isn’t it?