Preparing for a date with a Chinese lady but are worried about how to behave and make a good impression? Maybe you’ve been on plenty of dates in your lifetime and you think you’re an expert on dating and have tons of experience, but you can’t apply of it when dating a Chinese girl as there are some differences. Here are some main points which you’ll need to bear in mind to make a good impression on your Chinese lady:
Avoid a traditional date
You shouldn’t try to date a Chinese girl. That means, don’t try the traditional dating moves. A dinner, movie, an occasional goodnight kiss and the no more calls from her. This comes with too much pressure, expectations and awkwardness. This is what every one else has been doing with her. Try something easier and less conventional. Something like just meeting for coffee, no big set up or preparations. She is less prepared and expectant. The atmosphere is less charged, more relaxed and thus more fun without the usual dating expectations. Besides, you want to be able to talk and get to know this person.
Prepare a small gift for her
Flowers always have the magic to make your girl happy, so it’s highly recommended to bring her flowers. Stick with roses, lilies, or orchids. As dating is a serious thing for Chinese girls, it’s a good idea is to buy a vase with the flowers as this will represent a permanent gift that she can keep and she’ll know that you are serious about her.
Remember to behave like a gentleman
Chinese girls already give foreigners credit for knowing how to be gentlemen, so don’t miss the chance to prove this point. Give a hand to your girl to help her out of the taxi, open the door in front of her etc. That will definitely make her feel happy and proud.
Don’t be Mr. Goody-Goody
Don’t be Mr. Goody-Goody. Be a bit naughty – throw in unexpected and mischievous remarks to leave her wondering if you just said that. Don’t over-do it but do show her you are over impressed with her looks. Naughty statements and actions leave them wondering more about the kind of guy you are.
Less is more
Every guy tries to get a Chinese woman out on a date and impress her with detailed “rap” or speech moves. The truth is she’s heard it all before in many variations and versions. In this case less is more. The less you try to impress her, the more the Chinese girl is impressed. Try listening to her and getting her talk about herself. All you need is a small degree of interest. This throws her off guard as you are different and challenging, and Chinese girls like being challenged.
Honesty is the best policy
Honesty is also a quality that is highly respected in the Chinese society. A man of honor doesn’t lie and doesn’t abandon his responsibilities. If you wish to impress a Chinese girl you have to prove to her that you can be such a man of honor.
Show interest in her family Chinese women put a very high priority on family so showing interest in and bringing up conversation about that topic is a good hot button with her. It sure would boost the possibility of your success.
Listen to her suggestions
Let’s say you decided to go to Chinese restaurant. Hand the menu to your girl and listen to her suggestions. Don’t be surprised with the Chinese custom to order many dishes during meals – usually lunch or dinner will comprise two dishes with meat, one vegetable dish and a bowl of soup. And if you eat hot-pot – then it might be served with 5-10 different supplements!
Shave properly and avoid using strong perfume
You should shave properly and in case that nature gifted you with rich hairiness – consider carefully the style of T-shirt that you wear for the date. Also, avoid using strong perfume. In most cases, a little goes a long way. Chinese girls’ noses are very sensitive and they might make paradoxical conclusions about your reasons to use strong fragrances.
The bottom line is Chinese women really aren’t that much different from other women. The only difference is most other women like this sort of good behavior and chivalry but they don’t expect it whereas a Chinese woman does expected and demand it. Chinese women generally have very high self-esteem and very high values for themselves so they won’t tolerate being treated badly. To ensure the date is successful just make sure you are a complete gentleman and a nice guy and make her the focus of the night.