It is not always easy to date someone from a different culture, especially from an old, conservative culture. If you are not aware of the cultural differences, your dating experience could turn into a complete nightmare. Being a Chinese girl myself, I would like to warn you against some common mistakes you should try to avoid when dating a Chinese girl.
First of all, don’t be in a hurry. As the old Chinese saying goes: “You can’t eat hot tofu if you’re in a hurry”. Same rule applies to Chinese women, especially the hot Chinese women. In most cases, your usual quick pick-up methods will not work. So don’t try to approach a Chinese girl on the street and ask for her phone number as your second sentence after saying hi. This is considered to be playboy’s behavior and will not earn you any points. Chinese women are generally very conservative.So don’t misunderstand when a Chinese girl says that she is open-minded. What she probably means is that she is outgoing and easy to get along with. At the early stage of dating a Chinese girl, never send her overtly suggestive messages because she may feel very embarrassed and it can be a serious turn-off. Sex and intimacy is, especially for conservative, older Chinese, a subject that is not to be discussed openly. Just go slow and convince her that you are worth her time and she will open up to you eventually.
Don’t talk about your romantic past. Save the spicy stories about your one night stands for your male friends. Most Chinese girls have very traditional ideas about this. Casual relationships are generally not acceptable. So if you have a history of short-term romance, it’s almost certainly best not to mention it.
Don’t send her expensive presents before she is your girlfriend. It will only pressure a girl and put her in an uncomfortable situation thinking she owes you something. Of course, after she becomes your girlfriend, you can buy her valuable things to show her how much you care.
Don’t go Dutch! In China, “going Dutch” at a restaurant and offering money in public will be seen as rude, and the person will “lose face”. So don’t even think about sharing the bill with your date. Any man who brings his Chinese girlfriend and her family out to a meal, is expected to pay for all. This is also to prove to the family that he is capable of providing for their daughter.
Bearing these simple rules in mind will save you from many troubles. Good luck!