Chinese women are well known for their incredible beauty, loyalty and family values. That’s why more and more Westerners are now looking for Chinese brides. But Chinese women for marriage can be tricky to understand sometimes, especially for someone from a different culture. So before you date or marry a Chinese woman, here are a few things you should know. These facts are important if you want the relationship to be happy and successful.
1. A Chinese woman’s expectation of marriage is based on her own culture and not yours. So don’t assume that she knows what marriage is like in your country. I’m sure you’ve heard that Chinese girls are ‘traditional’, and in actual fact, the more traditional they are considered in Chinese culture, the less likely they will be able to adapt to you or your culture.
2. When a Chinese woman is attracted to a man, she will do things in a subtle and indirect way to show her attraction, but without knowing the cues and signs it may pass you by. For example,if she tells you to take care of your health, or when the weather is changing to wear more clothes, this is not simply a throw-away statement, as it is in western culture: she is trying to show that her feelings for you are deeper than just friendship. Besides, you should know that when dating Chinese women, they rarely show their true character until after a great amount of time, sometimes not even until after marriage! So working out her true character beforehand is a must.
3. Although Chinese girls are known to be submissive, they are seldom submissive after you really get to know them. The submissive nature you may see at the beginning of the relationship is simply a cultural influence that may gradually disappear over time and be replaced by her true character, which can be anything from generous, loving and kind, to selfish, bossy and materialistic. Find out what it really is beforehand.
4. To attract or date a Chinese woman you must display ‘stability’, among other things. If you have a history of short term relationships, it’s almost certainly best not to mention it, because she will simply assume you are a player that doesn’t want to settle down. Casual relationships are generally not acceptable in China. She will be very unlikely to consider a relationship with you, no matter short-term or long-term. The majority of Chinese men keep their relationship history secret, and with good reasons too!